I haven't really kept up with the current 'Ben 10' fandom scene, but from my memory of older stuff, the harem fics I stumbled across usually just piled on the girls. It was less about exploring relationships and more about checking boxes: Gwen, of course, then Julie, maybe that alien princess from that one episode, and inevitably, a few OCs. The focus seemed to land on Ben being confused or overwhelmed by the attention rather than any genuine, evolving connection with each person.
Sometimes they'd use the Omnitrix as a weird plot device for attraction, which felt lazy. The best ones I remember gave the girls distinct voices and reasons for being there—like, exploring Gwen's internal conflict between family loyalty and romantic feelings could be interesting, but it usually got buried under the sheer number of characters. Mostly it was just wish-fulfillment fluff.